The Wait may be over, need I say more. The Whitehouse may soon become a family of 4!!!

As I look back on our adoption journey, I’m forever grateful for God’s amazing patience and love He has granted both Kevin and I.  This process has taken a toll on us in every facet of our lives.  We hold on to truth that God has an amazing plan for our family.  Although the journey has been difficult it will be worth every tear cried and every dollar spent. 

Over the past 2 ½ months we have been presented to 7 birth moms. We have had four matches and 3 fall through.  Many of these girls have been in jail or are just coming out of jail.  All but 2 have been on drugs and have colorful rap sheets.  However, I will say with each one God reminds me of His grace that covers All our sins.  Who am I to think what I do is any worse?  I’m just grateful not all sins land us in jail.  I know I would be there.:)  Despite the history these girls came with, Kevin and I told the Lord we would walk through every door presented to us.  I would be here all day if I told you every detail of each girl.  Some girls we found out quickly just wanted our money. Some were lying about the amount of drugs involved.  Yet with each “no” told to us came a sting that I cannot describe. 

When we received the call that our 3^rd match had fallen through, we were done.  We honestly didn’t know what God wanted us to do.  With each match comes a price tag of hundreds and thousands of dollars.  At this point we might as well be flushing money down the toilet.  So we went back to our knees and began to pray and ask God for wisdom.  Should we go back down the IVF route? Should we be looking other places? We were at our breaking point.  We met with some dear friends for dinner that night.  As we sat around the dinner table and opened God's word, the words in James pierced our hearts.  The verses we have read and memorized began to permeate throughout our soul. 

   “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God who gives generously to all without finding fault and it will be given to him.”  James 1: 1-5

As we left that night, we prayed for wisdom and for God to give us a clear picture of His direction for our lives.  On Monday, we were being presented to our 7^th BM.  We didn’t give it much thought b/c we were one of 7 families being presented.  So that day I called a doctor to discuss the option of IVF.  We made an appointment for that Wednesday.   I went up to Allie’s room and sat in her rocker and cried and prayed. I couldn’t figure out why God would shut the door the year before to IVF and now open it again.  We really felt Adoption had called our name. 

The phone rang an hour later. It was the Jessica (adoption worker). She said “Wendy sometimes I hate making these phone calls.” Which I then interrupted and said,” yeah I know she didn’t pick us”. “Then she went on and said and sometimes I love to and this is one that I love.”  At that moment, I fell to my knees and cried and babbled all kinds of things.  I started praising the Lord, explaining about my call to the doc.  All to find out I’m on speaker!!!!!  This poor girl I’m sure had some serious second thoughts in that moment.  I literally couldn’t believe it.  After a few minutes, I gained my composure.  We set up a meeting with her on that Thursday.  When Kevin and I met her, we had a great conversation. We’ve been able to pour God’s love onto her like a fountain.  Then last Tuesday, she wanted me to go with her to her doctor’s appointment.  I went and was able to hear the babies’ heart beat. She wanted me to feel her move.  She introduced me to the doctor as the babies’ mom.  I can’t tell you what my heart and stomach were doing at that moment.  I told both she and the doctor that she was our angel.  She is blessing us with a gift that is indescribable.

Kevin and I are going to meet with her again this Tuesday. Then we’re down to weekly doctors visits.  She is due on Christmas day.  I’m praying that the baby will come early or after this date.  This is a hard decision for her and I don’t want every Christmas for her to be filled with a difficult memory. 

As you pray for Crystal (Birth Mom), pray that God will wrap His loving arms around her during this journey.  Please pray for this sweet baby girl.  There are some things that she has been exposed to during the pregnancy. We are praying that God will put a hedge of protection around her little body.  Finally for our family that God will give us wisdom as we meet with Crystal.  We want this to be a comfortable process for her.

We will be having some online fundraisers to help with the process. We have saved a good portion ourselves. As I’ve explained before, the adoption process can be quite costly.  If you could spread the word we would greatly appreciate it.  We will post more on this later in the week. 

Thank you for taking our family on your journey through life.  Your prayers and words of encouragement are forever held in our hearts.  Have a blessed week!